Author: Robert Walters

Who to Tell When You Experience Homophobic Discrimination

All kinds of homophobia have negative impacts on the gay community, particularly the kind that gays impose upon themselves.

No phobia is necessarily healthy.

They all have negative affects on the way that a person conducts their everyday life and thinks about life and themselves overall.

Phobias in general are typically exaggerated views and irrational fears.

Homophobia among straights may not be on the surface.

There are ways of disguising homophobia and making gays feel uncomfortable about them.

Withholding approval, offering negative criticism, and denying sympathy or affection are some of the ways that homophobes secretly display their fear or hatred for gays.

These actions or inactions cause pain, shame and uncomfortable self-loathing for some gays.

Bullying is a growing problem in the schools today.

Victims are often picked because they are “different”.

Unfortunately, lesbians, gay males, bisexual or transgender people are more likely to be victims of bullying.

This is called Homophobic bullying and is increasing common in schools today.

Homophobic bullying is defined as offensive or aggressive behavior driven by prejudice against lesbians, bisexual , those perceived to be lesbian, gay males, gay, bisexual or transgender people,.

If you are a victim or know someone that is a victim of Homophobic bullying you need to know what to do.

We’ve put together our top 6 tips, below:

What to do if you are a victim of homophobic bullying:

Tell Someone – No one can help you if they don’t know what is going on.

It doesn’t matter who you tell.

It can be a trusted adult which includes a teacher, parent, counselor, friend, etc.

Know Your School’s Policies – If you are not already familiar you’re your school’s bullying policies you should learn about your rights.

Your school has an obligation to safeguard you from bullying and harassment, regardless of your sexual orientation.

Don’t Fight – It may be your natural instinct to fight back but nothing positive will come out of doing so.

When fighting back you run the risk of getting physically hurt or make the situation worse.

If possible walk away from a situation and tell an adult or someone you trust

Keep Records – One of the most important pieces of advice is to keep records of everything.

Write down everything that pertains to the bullying incidents.

Record the date of the incident, time, location, who was involved and any other information that is important.

The more records you keep the better because it can eventually be used as evidence.

Don’t Have to Reveal Anything – If you are worried that by seeking help from your school or another adult it will reveal your sexual preference, you don’t have to worry.

Your sexual preference is your personal business and only has to be revealed if you want it to.

You do not have to deal with bullying on your own and should seek the help from an adult without worrying.

Seek Support – Check to see if there is a local group where you can meet people that have similar interests or issues.

Consider finding a gay-straight group or diversity club.

How to Evaluate Your Sex Life as a Homosexual

It’s shocking to women to find out the men they fell in love with is gay when actually the signs were already there to begin with; she was in denial.

Here is an insight on the subject of knowing if the man is a homosexual or not since so many women have blinders on.

First of all real gay men can’t hide the fact that they are gay.

There are signs somewhere to show you this whether it’s how he walks, talks, or acts.

1. Gay men are over dramatic and great over actors.

They go out of their way to prove what their saying is true to make you a believer.

Don’t fall for this women.

You must understand they have a feminine side to them already as any type of excessive emotion or flamboyance is a major sign.

2. Pinky finger up the rest of the digits down.

Dead giveaway women.

Any man who grips his coffee mug or cup with every finger except the pinky finger is flaming gay.

3. Gay bashing of other gay men.

Heterosexual men don’t care what another man is doing.

If your man is constantly berating other gay men that is a sign of self-hatred.

He’s gay and he hates himself and he puts down others like himself.

It’s the mirror effect.

He hates that he sees his own characteristics in other gay men.

4. Gay men check out other men as hard as they would a woman.

If you catch your man eyeballing another man hard, he’s not looking at his clothes.

He’s looking at what’s in them clothes and wondering if the guy he’s looking at is like himself.

5. Negative attitudes towards all women.

Heterosexual men know how to talk to a woman.

Gay men try to out do a woman.

They want the status of being the real queen.

They brag about themselves on how good they are in everything they do.

They have derogatory names towards women and seem like there is a jealousy or hatred towards the woman he is with.

RUN if you notice these behaviors.

6. Using gay terms with all his friends. Red flag women.

A heterosexual man will not call his best friend any type of gay term because he knows it will start a fight but a gay man will freely do this because he knows he’s calling them as he sees them literally.

If the homosexual community cannot keep this fringe from spouting off, making threats , then the entire gay community will fall far short of their goals of over all acceptance, which they seek.

7. Gay men commenting on another mans personal hygiene or grooming practices such as how clean his hands or fingernails are is a for sure sign.

This is a big giveaway and self-explanatory.

8. The most important sign of all, trust your instinct.

If the feeling is gnawing at you and the clues above exist, get away quick.

There is more to life than this one tiny little trivial cause in the world of yours.

Stop acting like a silly little human and join humanity and then they will embrace your cause and understand your need for freedom of sexual preference with all that this great nation has to offer.

How to Talk with Your Gay Partner About STDs

So have you and your gay partner decided to have sex?

Then this is the most appropriate time to talk about your STD status.

Everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender or age is at the risk of contracting HIV/AIDS and other STDs.

However, research shows that bisexual and gay men report more case of new diagnoses in the US.

While there is no easier way to discuss the topic on HIV/AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases, the best practice is to disclose or share information with your partner during the early stages of your relationship and especially before having any sexual encounter.

Regardless of whether we are negative or positive, we owe our partners the STD-talk.

More importantly, we have a responsibility to protect our health and that of our partners throughout the relationship.

Are you having trouble bringing out the topic?

Below is a simple suggestion on how to go about it.

1. Carry out intensive research

Specialists suggest that it is much easier to talk to your partner about the STD topic once you have sufficient information regarding the issue.

The in-depth knowledge helps to boost your confidence and also prepare you to answer any questions being raised by your partner.

Ideally, visit the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) to help you comprehend the topic better.

2. Time is of the essence

The truth is, most of us are not patient to form a stable relationship before having sex.

Nowadays sex can precede real intimacy hence the need to talk about STD before anything gets unzipped.

Face the ghosts of your sexual past and come clean about your STD status.

Know your partner’s opinion concerning the use of condoms, prep or other STD-preventative mechanisms.

3. Go for testing

Any effective STD-conversation begins with you getting tested.

Remember it’s normal for your partner to get defensive once you raise the question for fear of judgment or ignorance regarding their STD history.

Some STD infections are characterized by the absence of any symptoms so it would be hard for you or your partner to be sure of your STD status.

That is why regular and frequent testing is highly advised for any gay couple.

CDC recommends that gay couples should get tested for STD infections at least once a year.

4. Start the conversation

You need to trigger the conversation first by sharing your information.

Some partners find it a little awkward at first, but they will be more comfortable if you strike the conversation.

Again through sharing your story first, you help to make it less of an interrogation or interview and more of a casual conversation that they can readily contribute.

To avoid any resentment, you need to appreciate the fact that both of you had previous relationships.

And since STDs are not always symptomatic in men, the only way to be sure of your statuses is by sharing your medical history.

Pick a convenient place where you are unlikely to be disturbed, interrupted or less likely to get involved sexually.

Be direct as possible in your conversations.

You cannot always assume that your partner will understand your indirect hints.

Remember, if you are intimate enough to engage sexually with your partner, then you are also intimate enough to share information about your STD status.

This will help both of you to be clear of any doubts and also enable you to gauge where you will play on the safer-sex spectrum.